I recently went to an interview for a new job, which had some evening and weekend hours. I was asked how I would handle that with a young family. While I know this behavior is common (and not something that would be asked of a father), I want to address why you want to hire a mother.
I feel like motherhood teaches a lot of really great skills that we should want to include on our resumes, rather than hiding the fact that we have a family in an interview setting. These skills include: organization, problem solving, flexibility, dealing with issues publicly, a learner, a teacher, a well-rounded person.
- As a mother, one likely manages multiple schedules and possessions. She has methods and tricks that make organizing it all work (at least most of the time). A mother’s day begins with problem solving to get everyone ready for the day on time with the gear they need.
- Ever dealt with a growing baby? Every new parent learns the art of flexibility because as soon as you notice a baby’s pattern of behavior, it changes. You learn, by force, to roll with the punches.
- Negotiating with an upset person in public? Yup, every mother of a 2-3 year old or teenager has experienced this, and at the very least knows what doesn’t work.
- Mothers have been humbled to know they have a lot to learn, but they are learning, rapidly and on a variety of topics daily (medical, psychological, educational, developmental, science and more).
- Mothers are also teachers, from the basic skills like eating … to philosophies on the way the world works. A mother knows that sometimes the least convenient time is the best time for teaching.
I don’t see how an employer wouldn’t want someone with these skills.
Is a mother going to take off from work sometimes to tend to her family? Yes.
But let me ask you this: Do you want to live in a world where mothers’ don’t? I don’t. And for that matter, I don’t want to live in a world where fathers miss out on family either.
My takeaway: We’re all in it together, even if you don’t have children. You were a child once.